Episode -182 – Transcript – Whether you like it or not, you’re being recorded

This is the transcript for Episode 182 – Whether you like it or not you’re being recorded by Thoughts Off The Stem

0:05

Welcome to thoughts office stand.

I’m Justin Baroni, a friendly neighborhood pothead and today we’re smoking mystery weed.

I can’t remember what I rolled in here, but I’m really hoping that it’s the last bit of my liquid imagination.

I’m hoping anyway a little fired up today.

So this ones like a little bit of a wake and bake for me.

0:21

I know you won’t see it till the afternoon on a Friday, but dude, I was driving home from dropping my kids off at school.

OK, I have to go across this very narrow 2 lane while it’s a four lane Rd. but two in your direction lane Rd.

And there’s a certain point where I get like it’s it’s just over the halfway mark where there’s one kid that gets picked up on a short bus for school.

0:45

OK.

And today as I’m driving by, I’m actually at the light right before this kids house and I’m behind the school bus.

So as the school bus crosses the intersection, I have room to go around now the lights aren’t flashing, there’s no stop sign out.

1:02

She’s the bus isn’t even near the house yet.

It’s still like two or three doors down, so I’m behind the bus.

The bus doesn’t go that fast.

I’m not speeding, I’m not trying.

I’m not flying by traffic or anything.

But I figure I’m going to pass this bus because I want to get stuck behind this kid because generally when he get when I when that bus stops, okay, the parents take like fucking 1015 minutes.

1:23

I shouldn’t swear 1015 minutes, the parents take 1015 minutes to get the kid on the bus, giving them hugs, making sure he’s settled in his seat.

Like come on man, get your kid on the bus, get going.

I don’t care like to be honest, if even if it’s special needs, if you’re not in like a wheelchair or something like that, like on and off, other people have other shit to do.

1:44

They’re not waiting for you.

Like you holding up that amount of traffic for one kid is ridiculous because literally it takes maybe not 15 minutes, but like 5 or 10 minutes for these parents to get this kid on the goddamn bus and then it takes them another like 2 or 3 minutes to get off the bus.

Like what are you doing?

2:01

So anyway, as the and it holds up like a lot of traffic, it’s a very busy Rd.

There’s a Tim horton’s across the street.

So like that causes enough of a funnel and like there’s no, it’s unnecessary to sit for as long as they do trying to get their kid on the bus.

The kid is standing with them like, anyway, so today as I’m going, I’m behind the bus.

2:21

Bus starts to slow down.

I have space on my left.

So I go out around the bus and I go to pass it.

As I pass it, the dad, who’s dressed like Ronald McDonald, by the way, in yellow pants and a red shirt, is standing in front of the bus filming all the traffic.

Now I get, I get it.

2:38

You know, it’s a, it’s a, it’s a road where people get impatient and fly down that road.

I was not flying.

This guy starts recording traffic.

And as I go by, because I’m the first car, he’s shaking his head like I did something wrong.

First of all, again, there were no lights on on the bus, OK?

2:56

The bus was just slowing down.

There’s nothing wrong with me passing it before it stops.

I look behind the line of traffic around me or behind me now, which is only like is right behind me.

It has gone around the bus as well as it’s slowing down.

The lights come on and start flashing.

3:11

Then it starts flashing.

This dude is out in the middle of the road, OK, filming all the traffic as it goes by, shaking his head as if like everybody did something super wrong.

This is a problem that I fucking have with society, dude, because everybody has a smartphone and the ability to video anything they want.

3:32

Like there’s this, there’s this warrior mentality or this protector mentality.

I don’t know if it’s warrior, but it’s definitely protector.

Like, oh, I’m justice, you know what I mean?

You’re wrong, dude.

I don’t care what you say.

You are wrong.

3:48

You have impeded traffic for years by taking your sweet ass time because you’re so absorbed in your own crap that you impede traffic every morning, piss people off, or trying to get to work because you want to give your kid an extra couple hugs.

4:06

Great.

I am all for showing your kids the love, but also be respectful of your surroundings.

Now I know that this guy’s probably sitting on the side of the road.

Oh, these people are driving and they’re doing something wrong.

Nobody did anything wrong.

The bus hadn’t even put its flashers on yet.

4:23

Nobody.

NOBODY impeded anything that was happening with this bus.

I can understand if you’re getting fed up that the traffic is doing.

You know people are speeding through when the bus is stopped.

I get that.

But for you to stand in the middle of the road and start recording people as they go by just because you think that they did something wrong or you think that they should stop for your situation because you’re there?

4:50

Fuck you dude.

That’s what I have to say.

Too many people, because they have a cell phone and a way to like record people and put them on blast, have this attitude of like, I’m right.

5:06

You’re not always right.

A lot of the times you’re fucking wrong.

Acting like a Karen standing in the middle of the road.

Nobody did anything wrong.

We passed it, we passed it.

We passed a slow car before it put like before it put any of its indicators on.

That’s all that happened.

I don’t care that you got ticked off at it.

5:23

Think about all the people that get ticked off every day for the last however many years, OK, that you have been spending five to 10 minutes putting your kid on a bus when it only takes about 60 to 90 seconds.

Get over yourself.

Move on with it.

5:39

I’ve had on that road, I’ve had so many people like Karen’s videotape my car or try to record my car.

I don’t know why, because you’re driving 40 and I want to go 50.

The the speed limit on that road is 50 kilometers an hour.

I’m not doing anything wrong.

5:55

There’s a 40 past that and then you slow down for the 40 because there’s a school right over there in a church.

But there’s nothing wrong with passing a school bus in A50 at 50 when the school bus is slowing down and there’s no signals on.

I had a guy once when I was driving home, he was driving so slow.

6:12

He’s doing 30 OK, and as I pass him, he’s again.

When I pass him, I’m only doing 50, maybe 55 if I’m being honest.

OK, He’s got his phone up recording me as I drive by.

You’re doing the illegal thing, dude.

6:28

You’re using your phone while you’re driving, you dummy.

I’m so done with people, dude.

I like people individually.

I do not like people that are in groups that get their mind all messed up over what they think is right or acceptable.

6:48

People need to learn that nobody cares about you.

We just don’t.

Everybody has their own life.

I don’t know you.

You’re standing in the middle of the the road recording me for whatever purpose.

You send that to a cop, a cop’s gonna be like, well, I don’t see what he’s doing wrong.

7:05

Like if I was flying by at 150 miles an hour, I get it.

But I’m doing the speed limit.

I’m not.

I’m not causing a problem, I’m not driving dangerously.

I had room to turn.

I signalled.

Same thing with the old guy that was recording me as I was driving.

I was coming up behind him, but apparently a little too fast for him, which doesn’t make sense because he was doing well.

7:25

I mean, it makes sense because he was doing 30 in A50 and I was doing 50.

So I passed the guy like you should.

Why are you in the left lane?

If you’re going that slow, move the fuck over and get out of the way.

The other thing that made me wonder is if this kids on the short bus and this dad is out.

7:45

Literally this guy’s out in the middle of the road recording people like a dumbass in yellow pants and a red shirt like Ronald McDonald.

I think he took the short bus too.

He doesn’t quite understand.

This isn’t how you life, man.

This is how you get run over.

Like great, you have it on video, but now you have broken legs and a messed up spine.

8:04

Like what are you doing dude?

The fact that people have sort have the fact that people find it really easy like have such access to to recording and putting people on blast is bullshit because you can just put it online and then you can have like like you could, he could put my license out there for anybody.

8:22

Do you understand the do you understand the consequences that could happen?

Like people that are nuts will take that, get enraged, and then potentially do harm to somebody else because you’re too stupid to recognize that what you’re recording is not illegal.

8:39

You may not like it, but that’s not my fucking problem, dude.

I don’t like your face.

I don’t like you in the middle of the road trying to film me as I do regular driving things.

It’s not my part, It’s not my fault you’re stupid.

It’s not my fault that you think that the world revolves around you and everything should happen because you want it to.

8:59

That’s all you’re telling me.

That’s not the first instance I’ve had.

Like I said, I’ve had a few people on that road record me, and I get it.

Like, I know that people get frustrated when they drive.

I get all that stuff.

But the problem is, is that no, when you get stuck in that mindset, you don’t think about what you’re doing, you don’t think about the consequences.

9:20

You don’t think what could go wrong for you?

You know what, what happened if I wasn’t paying attention as well as I should have and this guy walked out from behind the bus to the middle of the road and I fucking clipped them.

That’s my fault, but it’s his fault.

Really.

That’s fucked up.

Like you’re just being an asshole at this point, right?

9:38

It’s definitely got more prevalent because I can remember the first time it happened.

It actually OK, so it happened to me once, like people recording you.

I was at my I think it was my son’s first birthday and my daughter’s like third birthday.

9:53

We had a, they’re two days apart but like 3 years.

So we went to a splash pad and we had like a double birthday party and I remember I was walking around the splash pad.

This would have been in 2010.

So like smartphones and stuff were just relatively new.

I guess they weren’t as abundant as they are now.

10:10

People still had other phones and I was following my daughter around through the, the splash pad recording.

And as I’m recording, I’m, I’m watching the, the phone ’cause I’m not trying to get other, like, I mean, people get in the frame, but I’m not trying to get other people’s kids ’cause I figure, you know, people see a guy in his like late, I think it was my late 20s at that early 30s and taking pictures, you know, videoing in a splash pad.

10:35

But there’s no real kid right around me.

So I can understand how this guy got a little agitated, but it was so stupid.

I’m following my daughter, not trying to record anybody else but her, OK.

And I’m standing there because she goes under the little like mushroom fountain thing.

10:51

And she’s standing there playing and doing her thing.

And I’m just standing off to the side sort of recording.

And then I see this guy in the back of the frame stares at me and he just starts charging at me, like not running, but like, you know, he’s like doing a very aggressive, like saunter over to me.

11:07

And so like, to avoid the incident because I knew there was an incident coming, I started walking towards my daughter.

As I got closer to my daughter, the guy sort of like steps in front of me.

He’s like, yo, what are you doing?

11:23

I go, I’m recording my daughter on her birthday.

Can you move?

So yeah, show me your kid.

Listen, when you do something like that as a person, why do you think that you’re the authority on life?

Like, show me your kid.

No, fuck you.

I don’t know who you are.

11:39

Why would I show you my kid?

I have to be a protective adult too.

You have to respect the fact that I’m there with my daughter on her fucking birthday, you prick.

Like fuck you man.

I hate people like that.

Don’t get me wrong.

Like I think that people should step in if something bad is happening, but I don’t think you should invent a bad scenario just so you could cause some issues or because you can, like, you know, oh, I have to fix this.

12:05

No, you don’t.

You don’t have to fix shit.

You’re not put on this planet to fix anything.

You’re put on this planet to get along with people and do whatever it is you do.

If you’re a cop, you’re, you’re an army man, You’re a firefighter.

I understand.

Sure you want to be involved.

You, you have some training in the ability to identify a bad situation as a regular human being in a splash pad.

12:25

You don’t know what the fuck you’re talking about.

So don’t start approaching people because you #1 don’t know who or how those people are mentally.

Like what if I’m a crazy person?

What if I’m just like, I’m going to fuck somebody up because they’re in my space?

That guy got so close to me that if I wanted to, I could have just knocked him right out.

12:45

I’m not saying that I was going to, but like he chart like a Karen charged right into my space.

What are you doing?

Don’t.

You can’t be filming here.

Yes, I can.

I’m at my daughter’s birthday and I’m not filming anybody else.

Not trying to.

I’m trying to take pictures of her dude, for memories, you fucking asshole.

13:02

If I have a camera and I’m taking pictures, like back in the day, do you know who would walk up to people with cameras being like, what are you doing?

No one because people understood that you’re taking family photos.

Like some people just have such a Burr in their ass that they want to be the person that protects everything, you know?

13:19

And then again, like I said, with the, with the, with smartphones and the ability to capture any image at any time, wherever you want, all of a sudden you have this new sense of like, I don’t know if it’s authority or just personal, like justice.

13:39

You know, it’s, it’s obviously a, a social, just a personal social justice warrior or something like that.

But like, what are you thinking?

Like, oh, I have a phone.

So people aren’t going to do anything because I’m recording you.

Some people don’t give a shit and they’re going to, they’re going to deal with you whether you have a phone going or not, you know what I’m saying?

13:58

Especially if you get like the wrong person.

Like if you’re the dude that’s going to, that’s sort of like if you’re the dude that’s pressing it and getting in someone’s face, like the guy at the splash pad, there’s a high probability that somebody’s going to knock you out or mess with you or try to fight you or physically harm you.

14:17

Like don’t get in people’s space.

If you’re that concerned about it, you call the cops.

That’s what the police are for.

I’m Canadian.

I can say that.

But yeah, I don’t understand why people think that it’s their job to take on.

14:33

And then when people do take on the responsibility of trying to set things right or hold people accountable, like they’re not actually thinking of the scenario, they’re thinking or or live in the scenario.

They’re thinking about the possibility of the end result of if this scenario goes bad.

14:51

You know, like that guy’s filming everybody even though not one car did anything wrong passing that bus.

He’s filming that thing, probably thinking why aren’t you stopping for the bus for my son?

My son can’t get on safely.

Keep your son on the fucking sidewalk like a grown up, OK?

And a proper father.

Put your phone the fuck away and pay some attention to your child before they go to school so that you’re not holding up the rest of society because you want to give an extra 22nd hug. 30 SEC whatever.

15:20

Be responsible.

You’re asking other people to be responsible.

You need to also be responsible.

And being responsible is not fucking recording people that aren’t doing anything wrong just because you have a Burr up your ass about the flow of traffic that you impede every day.

15:38

There’s no other person on that road that’s getting picked up, it’s that one kid and you’re going to take 5 to 10 minutes out of everybody else’s morning commute because you want to give an extra hug.

That’s selfish bullshit, dude.

It’s as selfish as the people that if they have drove past this thing because they got impatient, the world doesn’t stop for you.

16:02

Nor should you be the social justice warrior Karen that tries to take on how society operates.

If you have a problem and laws are being broken, you call the God damn police.

That’s what happens.

You don’t take it on yourself.

You’re not Rambo, OK?

16:19

You’re not any movie character.

You’re not.

You’re not even Tim Kennedy, a real life human who could take out a lot of people because he’s an Army Ranger.

You’re not those guys.

Don’t start those problems.

You don’t want that smoke.

You hide behind a camera talking, talking all kinds of nonsense.

16:37

Just you’re beating people and threatening people with certain things that you’re going to do.

Like you’re recording nobody doing anything wrong and threatening them with, you know, probably some like calling law or something like that.

16:53

Like it’s such a bullshit.

If you’re going to be, if you’re going to be that guy, at least be right.

At least do it when it’s the right time.

17:10

You know, I know there was another instance with my dad and my son when my son was like, I think it was 5 or 6.

My dad used to live on this like, well, my parents, they lived on this like quiet little, you know, what do you call?

17:27

I don’t know what it’s called drive.

Like the street that like had a dead end.

He had to come out so people would walk because there was a ravine in the forest, the area behind them, lots of paths.

So people would walk along there all the time.

And my son, when I was going through my separation, had a bit of like an anger issue.

And sometimes my parents would watch her for the weekend to give me a break so that, you know, I could because it was a lot, man.

17:48

Anyway, the point being was that one night my dad and my son are out on the porch and my son is acting up and he’s like kicking like full on sitting in the chair, apparently just wailing on my dad.

I wasn’t there.

He called me, he goes, what do I do?

18:03

How do I get him to stop?

And well, I mean, he knew, but he eventually just left him in the chair till he cooled down and then he came inside.

But as this kids kicking him and my dad’s getting frustrated who’s like at the time, I think he was in his 60s, right, late 60s maybe could have been even early 70s.

18:20

No, I think 60s in his late 60s, and he’s having some health problems and stuff.

And so then, you know, my son’s kicking him and this guy walking by, my dad’s just trying to control his feet.

And this dude walking by on a walk puts his phone up.

He’s like, don’t touch that kid.

18:36

Like, who the fuck are you, man?

You don’t even know what’s happening, you uninformed idiot.

Like people like that piss me off.

That’s the type of Karen that drives me the fuck nuts.

Sorry.

I know I’m trying.

I know that overall I’m trying not to swear it’s tough it’s a tough Rd. because I’m also fired up today.

18:56

That guy really pissed me off in his Ronald McDonald pants and T-shirt.

But yeah, so this dude was walking by my dad’s house sees the my kid kicking my dad and my dad just holding his feet trying not to get wailed on and this guy starts some kind of I’m recording you and it’ll end up on thing if you do anything wrong like why are you threatening people you asshole?

19:15

Maybe think about like that to me says that this guy doesn’t have kids because clearly you don’t know what it’s like to have children that are out of control.

Like he had real bad anger issues.

It was a, it was a problem.

He him, he, he tried to hit me a couple times back then, you know, So like, I’m not trying to, I’m not trying to say that you shouldn’t hold people accountable to their actions, but you really should be thinking before you do, you know, because just running up into somebody’s business is not the move, man.

19:47

You might get the wrong guy on the wrong day.

Sure, there might be consequences for that guy’s actions, but at the same time you don’t want to, you know, it’s like one time I got into a fight, well like a road rage incident where I was pulling out of my house and I was driving.

This guy kept cutting us off till finally he followed us into a parking lot and he stopped behind my van.

20:07

And at the time my kids mom was pregnant with our son and we had my 2 year old daughter in the back.

OK.

And.

This guy pulls in behind us, behind us, gets out of his car and starts approaching the car.

20:22

I tell my girl to stay in the car.

I get out.

I go to the back of the van and meet the guy at the back.

And this guy’s irate in my face.

Now I didn’t because my I had my youngest kid and my pregnant wife in the car at the time.

I didn’t think like, oh, I might get hurt.

I thought this guy can’t get to the front of the car because he’s so like gonzo on this situation that I can’t let him get to the front of the car.

20:43

Who knows what will happen then.

So I remember he came walking up to me, arms out, screaming and yelling.

I just grabbed him by his collar.

Dude, I threw my jacket off.

I grabbed him by his collar.

I picked him up and I slammed him down on the hood of his car just to hold him in place because I was like, you’re not doing stupid shit.

20:59

And eventually the cops were called.

Cops show up.

I get sort of like, I get told like, you know, you shouldn’t have started this fight.

I was like, I didn’t start the fight.

So once they got all the information, they found out that this guy was actually in the wrong and the guy admitted to being in the wrong.

And the cop who I was talking to, he looks at me, he goes, you know, just for like future reference, like I wouldn’t get involved with people like that are this crazy because, you know, you never know what they have on them, like if they have a weapon or something like that.

21:27

And I looked up at the cop just being me.

I go, you don’t know what I have on me.

So like, it goes both ways.

And the cop goes, do you have a weapon on you?

I go no.

But I’m just saying like, you know, neither of us know.

But I also didn’t think because I was in like protection mode.

21:43

But I also have never been in a position where I got so irate with somebody over a potential scenario that had that plays out that I’ve like gone after them to the fact to the point where like I’m more cautious about that.

I’ve been, I used to work concert security.

I used to like I think about before I get into anything physical, I think about the consequences and I weigh the scenario.

22:05

It’s always better to walk away, dude.

So like, you walking up to somebody and shoving a phone in their face while you’re filming them and telling them they’re not doing something or doing something you don’t like, it’s bananas to me because like, what are you doing?

You know, you’re just provoking somebody.

22:23

Nobody likes being put off like that or caught off like that.

And again, if you’re going to be that person, be right, make sure that there is an infraction, a crime, real issue that happens before you decide to start, you know, trying to call people out because 1, you start doing that and everybody on the road in the scenario, this dude from the side of the road will look at you like a moron, OK?

22:52

You put yourself in danger by walking into the road because who knows if everybody’s paying attention or not, right?

And there’s nothing wrong with what you’re doing.

What what they’re doing.

There is something wrong with what you’re doing.

You’re walking into traffic like you can’t just do that.

It’s called jaywalking at the very least.

23:09

So like, you know, and then you’re going to go and look like a fool because now you’re recording that you’re going to put it online or you’re going to send it to the cops.

Be like, look what’s happening on my kids bus stop and the cops are going to go, well, there’s they’re passing.

The bus doesn’t have flashers on or anything.

23:24

Like they’re not on your, they’re not going to be on your side.

If the flashers are out and the stop sign’s out, I get it.

And the cops, I’m sure I’ll be like, OK, well, there we go.

We got this guy, this guy and this guy.

But it’s not like, and again, if somebody’s speeding, I kind of I kind of understand that, but don’t walk into it.

23:41

Like take it, you have a camera, it zooms like take it from the side of the road.

Don’t get involved.

You know, if you see somebody at a splash pad that doesn’t look right, maybe don’t just have your first reaction to be just to like walk right up to their face and try to, you know, put them in their place.

Maybe watch what’s going on, get a sense of how it’s of what’s happening and then proceed correctly, like calling the cops, not approaching people.

24:06

You know, if you see somebody, if you see a kid fighting with an adult at the front of the house on a property, you know, maybe don’t interject yourself in that because you don’t know what’s going on in the day.

24:23

I don’t care if you’re a parent or not.

If you notice that there is some severe violence going on and the kid is getting pummeled, maybe call the cops, you know?

But if the kid is kicking and there’s a 68 year old man trying to just hold the feet so that they that this, you know, 8 year old doesn’t kick him too hard, maybe just chalk it up for what it is, an upset kid and a grandparent trying to manage the anger of an 8 year old.

24:52

You know, I’m just saying, before you become a Karen, before you start recording everything, before you start putting a camera in someone’s face, maybe pay attention to what is happening at the moment.

Live in the moment.

25:08

Don’t be clouded by what your interpretation of the end, what the end result might be in terms of how you deal with that situation.

Maybe, maybe calculate your reaction and then match it to, you know, having an acceptable equivalence to what the actual scenario is.

25:39

Don’t walk in the middle.

Don’t walk out in the middle of the road trying to record people, you know, speeding or doing something illegal when they’re not stand on the sidewalk.

Use the Zoom feature on your phone.

Then catch the person you see somebody don’t I wouldn’t approach them.

That’s a good way to somebody, you know, some for somebody to hurt you.

25:57

Like I feel like in this world, anxiety is at an all time high and people are stressed out like crazy.

The world is falling apart, you know, and I feel like most people are not actually acting accordingly.

They’re really just pressing the agenda of negativity with their actions.

26:22

Yeah, I think that’s the best way to put it.

So keep your shit together, think, be smart, act accordingly, and don’t react on emotion.

That’s what I’m saying.

Don’t be a Karen, don’t be a Ken.

26:38

Don’t try to create a problem where there isn’t a problem.

I don’t know what this joint is.

I wish I could tell you.

It seems to be a sativa, so it might have been liquid imagination.

But yeah, those are my thoughts off the stem for this week.

26:58

I hope you enjoyed the sesh.

I hope you come back next week with me.

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27:16

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27:37

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27:57

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That’s all we’re doing, having a session, living life.

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I hope you have a good month, a good year.

Hope life is good to you.

And until next time, keep your lids low baby.

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